Tina Health History

Danna Levy Hoffmann: it's super nice to meet you.

And thank you for filling out the health history and doing it in a detailed way.

This is super helpful for me to really understand your background,

your needs, and to pinpoint my questions a little bit more.

so really thank you for that because some people are kind of scared to give

too much information thinking that, I don't know, I sell it to the dark web.

So, I'm gonna ask you a lot of questions today just to really

fully understand you and your needs.

if you have any questions on the way, please just feel

free, stop me, ask questions.

Not a problem at all.

Um, but yeah, I will bombard you with questions.

So, you're married, you have a 2-year-old, And you work

full-time, so 45 hours a week.

plenty to do on a daily basis is what it sounds like.

Mm-hmm.

tell me a little bit about why you are looking for health coaching.

Well, i'm at the point of my life where I realized I,

I just can't do it all alone.

I mean, I have a strong partner and he's definitely like, like the best

decision I ever made was to marry him, Um, while I was like very capable of

taking care of others and also taking care of myself and managing everything,

I'm just feeling since two years or so, especially since I started working

again, that things are kind of.

I just don't feel, in control of my, I don't wanna say of my life.

It sounds too dramatic.

I just feel less and less in control of certain things and I would just

like, things to go a bit more smoothly.

You know?

I'm, I feel also that I'm I feel like irritated.

Does it make sense?

and my mom also made this comment, oh, you used to be like this super

balanced, bubbly person and strong and calm and funny and, you know, all this.

And it's Exactly like who I am, kind of deep down.

I feel like bombarded with so many challenges , at the moment.

And as I was pointing out in the form, I love my life.

I love my family.

it's beautiful and it's also so intense.

And, there are like challenges at work.

Like, I want to have a career.

I want to, have adult conversations.

I want to keep doing what I'm doing because the work that I'm doing

feels very purpose driven for me.

It's actually related to female health.

it's about , protecting the most vulnerable population in

our society, being pregnant women and the unborn children.

And able to be there for my family and able to continue doing

this kind of work that I enjoy.

I can just feel that my battery, like my energy is getting kind of drained a bit,

and I'm finding difficulties to replenish that battery that I. for my daily life,

for my daily challenge , because at the end of the day, I have priorities

. Like I would be there for my daughter I don't want to, let her stay and

keep her all day long from six 30 to six 30 and, pick her up as early as

possible to have quality time and also for her not to get overstimulated.

I feel like I'm answering this question a bit too long,

Danna Levy Hoffmann (2): no, it's perfect.

Don't, don't, don't be in your, your own head about it.

It's fine.

I, the more information you give me, the better.

That's fine.

Okay.

Yeah.

And I was hearing about people getting, this kind of professional,

help in terms of health coaching and I would like to have.

Something that looks at everything more holistically, you know, because

I don't like, like just putting a bandaid on like a symptom, for

instance . And I think for me it's time.

to really tackle this, the strategies, the methods I used to have before

pregnancy, before we had a little girl, they don't work anymore.

Yeah.

So I, I feel like I need new tools, a new strategy, a new routine, I

don't know, just something that fits my new life situation better.

And, um, and then on top, I was also mentioning in the form

there are like certain things that happened in my childhood.

And now having a child myself, especially having a daughter myself, that kind

of, you know, like goes with the past reawakening, I can feel that I'm having

trouble, like shutting down my thoughts.

So in the evening I think about many, many things and I'm

having trouble falling asleep.

And I try things , you know, I listen, there's like this kind of thing on

Spotify that helps you breathe and you listen to wailing whale sounds

or rain drops and stuff like that.

It kind of helps, but it's, I don't know, I just haven't found the thing yet.

And I feel that it's okay to ask for help because usually

I'm the one people come to.

And, you know, but I feel like no, it's, it's, it's my turn to ask for help.

So I'm trying to practice that to actively reach out, even though

I'm having trouble doing so.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Hmm.

But

now I'm like super motivated in a sense that I want to not be

the one that kind of praises water, but then starts drinking wine.

because I keep saying, oh, it's fine to go to therapy, it's fine to ask for

help, you know, but I was usually the one that's, that was helping and now

I'm like, I should follow my own advice.

You know, I should, I should, uh, try to take this opportunity

and, and ask for help.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Hmm.

we have friends that have, their own parents, like their, their,

their child's grandparents helping them out a lot on a regular basis.

And then they both themselves work 80% and they have, like, they only send their

child Nikita for like two days a week.

And the rest is like super well organized within the family structure.

And I, I caught myself, I'm actually a bit jealous, you

know, and for me, this is a very.

Negative thing to, to be jealous.

And I don't want that, you know?

Okay.

I just, I just wanna be completely happy for other people.

Sorry.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: No, don't worry.

I don't wanna be this

jealous person.

I just, so I felt like, okay, I, I, I need to change things and Yeah.

That's why I'm here

Danna Levy Hoffmann: that's beautiful and thank you for being so open and

sharing that . I know it's not easy.

and I think first of all, you're obviously a superwoman there's some

kryptonite around us and we just need to somehow remove that then that's okay.

and I think you're very aware of it and very open it sounds like, to

reach out for help at the moment.

which is great.

That puts you in a very good position because, you know, there are things

that you mentioned now and there know, other things that you mentioned in

the health history, which obviously there's no, quick fix or quick pill.

And so we need to know that you're in that good state of mind where you're

like, okay, I know this is not maybe going to happen tomorrow, but I am ready

to go through this and, and try to figure it out for myself and for my family.

and so that makes complete sense.

And you were talking about it slightly now and also mentioned that in the

history report that you were feeling guilty for sending your kid to Keita.

You know, so much.

I mean, mom guilt is it never goes away.

Unfortunately.

My kids are 16 and 17 daily struggles still.

But it's something that we need to understand that we we're

putting that guilt upon us.

And that's something to, of keep in mind that you know, your kid is gonna

be happy and healthy, whether she's in Keita seven days a week or one day

a week, because you give her the love and the attention and the support

that she needs when she is with you.

And so it's quality versus quantity.

So please, please, please, if there's one thing that I can help you with,

please don't feel guilty because It's really difficult as a mom specifically

Uh, you did also mention sleep.

And quality of sleep.

So falling asleep and quality of sleep, digestion problems and

deficiencies and endometriosis.

God, help me say that word.

So, um, I wanna know a little bit about when did each one of those things start?

So when do you feel that your sleep issues started?

Was that something that just happened in the last couple of years as well, so

something about the sleep is that I have always been, uh,

unfortunately having like nightmares for quite some time since my childhood.

Mm-hmm.

And something that had turned out to be even called Night Terrors.

So I, once did some own research and I was like, oh my God, this is what I

have, there's an even a name for it.

It's called Night Terror.

And then for me it's, it feels so real.

It feels so real.

And then all the emotions and, things like I really live them in

these kind of very vivid nightmares.

And so I feel super, exhausted.

It's like emotionally very exhausting every time I have it.

And whenever I would be like working out a lot and going to wellness a lot and

stuff like that, it would be a lot better.

Right.

But now for these, I don't really have the time . Sure.

That's, that's what I meant.

I need like a new strategy . Like I cannot, no

Danna Levy Hoffmann: more hours in the day is what we need.

I cannot just vanish for like three hours and tell my husband Okay.

Bye And then the thing about having trouble to fall asleep kind of developed

over the past, couple of years.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Mm-hmm.

would you say it was like pregnancy or after?

It was like falling asleep was already a trouble before pregnancy.

Interesting.

But, but the kind of light sleep I have that I wake up with, you

know, like I have to hear my daughter say, eh, and then Im awake.

This, I have, I mean, since, since the pregnancy, since postpartum.

And I think this is kind of difficult

Danna Levy Hoffmann: But now it's like,

really,

Danna Levy Hoffmann: it's getting worse.

Horrible.

Yeah.

Okay.

Okay.

what about the digestive problems constipation, diarrhea , bloating.

Has That been also quite a while,

or, um, this has also been quite a while.

Um, and then during pregnancy I was very constipated.

Mm-hmm.

Um, and not a one of this home random remedies worked.

So only if I would be taking a lot of like, magnesium, would help.

And, I'm trying to eat less meat.

but at the same time trying to manage my iron deficiency, so I'm taking

like iron supplements in the morning.

Um, and this I can only manage if I also at the same time take magnesium.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Um, can I, can I ask why you're trying to eat less meat?

Is it because of the constipation or is it just in general?

It has something to do with the constipation, but it's

also like an moral decision.

Like I, I feel like, um, so I grew up, uh, in the Mongolian household and they eat,

that's a lot of meat every day, all day.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

They, they take leftovers of meat from the, from the supper

and put it the next morning.

So yeah, I feel like I've already, you know, used up my share of eating

meat and at the same time, I do not want to do completely without it.

So, when we buy, for instance, directly from a farm that has like this Demeter,

certificate and I can actually see the cows, with their horns having like a good

life, I, I kind of feel okay with this.

Okay.

but I'm trying to eat less meat because Yeah.

'cause of ethical, reasons.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Okay.

and you would say that the constipation and diarrhea and bloating, all of these

things, did those happen, do you think?

Like, did it start childhood, teenager hood, young adulthood

? Tina: Mm, I would say teenager hood.

And I think it's my own fault, I used to be very sporty.

I used to have a good digestion and stuff like that.

And I have a cine and I see all those Photoshop girls on my magazines.

And I grew up in Germany, so I was the only Asian.

So I was short, I was kind of chubby.

And all the other, girls were like, you know, like little gazelle . And

Danna Levy Hoffmann: yeah,

as a kid You don't realize, you know, as a kid you just see your

surrounding and you try to fit in.

And then, um, I was, I feel like I messed up my digestion by.

Um, I had like an eating disorder.

I, I kind of stopped eating

Danna Levy Hoffmann: mm-hmm.

it took me quite a while to, get out of it.

so I'm, I'm completely fine since I don't know, I would say 15 years or so.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Okay, great.

Um, but yeah, but for in my teens it was a big topic.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: do you think it started within that window of you

I started with the eating disorder

because when I started eating again and eating healthy again,

mm, it has never been the same.

Okay.

It has never been the same.

and then I think on top with hormonal imbalances that so

many women have, you know?

And now that I was diagnosed with endometriosis And, you know, it kind of

adds up and I feel like, oh my God, there are so many things I have to take care of

. Danna Levy Hoffmann: Yeah.

Do you know what wanna start?

I know exactly.

You just feel like you're in a, in a deep hole and you just need to grab onto

something, and that's totally reasonable.

But I think there's a, and this is where work with me would come into play, is that

we just need to do it one step at a time.

And it might take a little bit longer, but that's okay.

Because if you're on the right path and you're doing it in a sustainable

way, yes, that is, it's gonna, it's gonna help you more in the long run.

but you're right.

I would never blame you for anything you didn't know any better.

Your decisions at that time.

And of course, putting yourself in a place where you're, you have an eating disorder,

no one's gonna say like, no, it's fine.

You were smart, you know, you needed to lose weight.

Bullshit.

Right?

But mm-hmm.

That's all you knew in that moment, and that's okay.

but it could have definitely led to certain issues.

the fact that you also have some deficiencies, you mentioned iron B12

D, um, that plus the digestive problems might point us to maybe leaky gut, maybe

other issues that are causing that.

And as you say, hormones where women we're screwed or fucked, as

I like to say, because we just are hormonal, more hormonal human beings.

And that does put a toll on our, health.

With the endometriosis and the deficiencies, let's say, are you, are

you dealing with it with a professional?

the deficiencies?

I would say.

Um, I have a kind of good habit now because it used to be so bad, like,

like anemic a couple of years ago.

I had to get like actual iron infusion.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Mm-hmm.

Um, iv, treatment for two years to kind of fill it up again to a

state where, because the doctor said there's like no chance you Yeah.

Manage by, you know, with the, with the diet, it's that low.

So for two years I had to get like, you know, go to the doctor

regularly to get those IV bags.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

And now it's fine with, you know, with the diet I'm having, it's, it's,

the diet is, I think I would say.

Okay.

But it could be a lot better.

And the supplements are helping.

Yes.

But it's, it's also not, it's, I think it's, it's okay.

But it definitely could, like the habits in general could be better,

you know, with these kind of things.

Okay.

And then with the end of choices, it's like super new.

Like, it's super new.

Like, I haven't even wrapped my head around it, you know?

Okay.

So, um, um, it's one thing to read about in a textbook, you know what I mean?

And then the other thing to kind of connect the dots and be like, oh,

oh, this is a sexual intercourse lately hurts with my husband, and I

don't really feel like it anymore.

every time I'm close to my period, you know, I, I also feel, this

other kind of pain, deep inside me somehow, and I'm like, okay,

okay, It's starting to make sense.

So it's, yeah, so it's kind of, everything is kind of, you know, coming together.

Yeah.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Yeah.

And it is a lot to take on.

we're talking about sleep that's been going on forever, digestion problems

that have, have been going on forever, and then all of a sudden, like more

things accumulate and it's just a bit overwhelming, which is understood.

Yeah.

I have a science background, right?

Mm-hmm.

But it's so different.

if it's about myself.

it's really completely different.

Oh, yeah.

You would think, oh, she can help herself because she can do the research

and she can figure out a plan and just, you know, push through and,

and be disciplined all about it.

But I'm like, no, no, no.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: All doctors have a doctor.

All health coaches have a health coach.

So, no, I, I wish it worked that way, you know, but it just doesn't, uh, we

go into that, we go into these sectors because we want better for ourselves,

and it just doesn't work that way.

You did also mention that you have some fear around, uh, breast

cancer, because of family history.

that's yet another something in the back of your mind that

Helps with stress , right.

I mean, it helps with staying up at night.

Yeah.

Yes.

And every year, and actually my appointment for this year,

soon, every year around the same time, I'm like, oh my God.

Have this appointment in two weeks, you, and you can feel, my

husband can feel it, I can feel it.

And then, yeah.

And he's, and he, he was really trying, he's like, you're fine, you know, you will

go there, it'll be fine, like last year.

But it's so good that you're getting it checked, you know, kind of,

Danna Levy Hoffmann: and then if, if,

if they see something, you will catch it so quickly kind of.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Yeah, exactly.

So you're on top of it enough to know early enough to take care of it.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But it's, it's

still, it's still kind of mm-hmm.

It's like in the back of my head, like,

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Sure.

Makes sense.

you did also mention that there's a lot of tension in the shoulders,

neck and jaw muscles and then you tend to, to get migraines.

Mm-hmm.

You know, all of these things are kind of, just really looking at

it superficially without actually starting to work with you.

and especially with what your mom said, it sounds like there is lot

stress . and that is definitely affecting a lot of other things.

And then, you know, with not getting enough sleep, it's very hard to

handle stress and handle eating maybe healthier the stress is always going

to be a huge factor on how your body is also reacting to what you're doing.

Because if we're eating healthy , but we're in chronic stress mode,

we're not gonna be healthy.

Mm-hmm.

Go to the gym, eat well, do this, do that.

You know, but you're not, but you're under constant stress.

we're not really getting anywhere.

Right.

So, mm-hmm.

This is why a lot of my clients, we start, they expect me to just give

them a, a, you know, to tell them what to eat and everything will be fine.

But stress and sleep are the first things that we look into.

And with certain people even doing a little bit more intensive,

uh, de-stressing just to really understand what else are you lacking?

Because when you're having these deficiencies.

It's definitely not the only ones.

It might not be tested with a regular doctor, but we need to kind of

understand better what is going on.

so when I asked if you cook, you said not anymore, but the

50% of the food is home cooked.

What's going on cooking wise?

so what we do is we try to, like ready food, you know, like easy ready

food but still healthy and organic and because we buy from that, organic store.

could be like, I don't know, tollini with spinach and stuff , and then

try to make some fresh veggies or something protein based As well.

So at the moment, my husband is mainly taking care of the cooking and on

top we decided that we need also some help in the household in general.

Great.

so, now we have found someone who can help us, With stuff in the

household and who can also cook.

So basically she does batch cooking, and we heat it up, Whenever we need it.

So we still eat kind of for cooked meals, but it's just not cooked by me anymore.

So the Keita is very good.

So they have very healthy food at the Keita.

and then, I'm capable enough to make sure that she has something healthy, but then

at the moment, I'm not capable enough to make sure that I eat healthy enough

And my husband he's like the least picky person on earth He, so for instance,

I actually enjoy eating healthy.

I like the flavors.

I like, you know, to play around with ginger and stuff like this, but he's like,

oh yeah, I'm fine with bread and cheese

Danna Levy Hoffmann: Is he German

Yes.

Yes.

He's, he's German.

Yeah.

Okay, perfect.

Okay.

and you even mentioned here, you know, you crave more coffee and sugar

lately, which again goes along with the lacking sleeve with the stress.

That's how our body translates into like, I need more energy.

Right.

So, makes sense.

That's definitely, yeah, that's definitely it.

It, it's, it all makes sense in just looking at your health history, it

really all makes sense in my head, so I'm not surprised at any of it.

I would love to try and help you if, if possible, there will be some changes.

My question is the person that's helping you cook and your husband,

so your husband sounds like a great guy , the lady that's helping you

cook, would she be open to your recipes

? Would she be open to going a different route if and when needed?

Yeah, so if I, for instance, tell her, this is what I bought, can you make.

Something with it like this, she will definitely do it.

And also, I forgot to say that, um, in the hope that it will somehow help us

in our daily life challenges, let's say we audit a term mix, which arrived, uh,

recently, but we haven't opened it yet.

Okay.

It's just lying there.

I don't know if, if it's, if it's not relevant.

No, it's perfect to know.

Danna Levy Hoffmann: I love kitchen gadgets because in my world, if you don't

have like two or three gadgets that help you cut down on time, of course you're

not gonna be able to find that energy to cook when you're working full time, when

you have a toddler at home, when you have a relationship that you wanna maintain.

Let's be real.

Right?

So I love that you got it.

Let's see how it goes for you if you managed to work with it

and, and find recipes that, that make it really quick and easy.

I have other ideas if though it doesn't work out.

Um, but I love it.

I'm really glad that you told me because that immediately kind of

sends me to, you know, think about it and, and send you to, to try it out.

But that's perfect.

Great.

Thank you so much for again being so vulnerable and open.

I really do appreciate that because I think that's very helpful to move forward.

I think it would be great to, to try and help you.

Thank you.

Thank you so much.

Thank you for taking the time and, and general for offering this.

Thank you so much.

Bye.

We'll speak soon.