"Just Have More Willpower" and Other Bullsh*t People Say - So Frickin' Mini

Hey, Donna.

Hey, Megan.

Hey, in this mini, I really want to talk about useless mantras like eat less, move more, and these are the kind of things. So, yes, we had AI help us come up with a list of mantras. Are we ready?

I am so ready.

Okay, you pick the first one.

Oh, let's do. Well, let's do the first one that we have on the list, which is eat less, move more.

Okay.

How long do we have?

Ten minutes. All right. Eat less, move more. What does that say to you?

It says bullshit to me, honestly, because I see so many people really struggling, really struggling. They will feel like they need to lose weight. They'll start going to the gym. They'll go crazy at the gym. They'll eat like 500 calories a day.I mean, they'll just be miserable. And then they don't manage to lose the weight. So I feel like this is so misleading and it. It boils my blood. This one. This one boils my blood.

Okay, let's change it. If you were to change this, eat less, move more into something that was actually good for someone, how would you change this?

Eat healthier and move a little bit.

Eat healthier and move a little bit.

Yeah, honestly, it's so much friendlier too. No, I really do think so. So again, this is my problem. My problem is this.When you eat less, your body, I mean, again, eat less to people means, like, I'm going to intermittent fast for 24 hours every three days. And move more means, like, I'm going to be on the treadmill for three hours on the gym, not including the rest of the exercises that I do there.

Yeah.

It goes into extremes. And when you go into extreme, your body just goes like, oh, my God, I don't know when she's gonna feed me again.

Yeah.

And what the fuck is gonna happen?

Yeah.

I need to reserve every single fat cell so that I am able to escape when need be.

Yeah.

And that's not a healthy place to be. And it's not going to help you lose weight. So. Yes. I'm gonna shut up about that one now.

Okay. I wanna move on to one where people might say this to themselves or to other people, which I'm being so bad today.When eating certain foods, I'm being so bad today.And my beef with this one is you should never, ever, ever relate feeding your body, whether it's feeding your emotional body or feeding your physical body with bad things, I feel like this is the. One of the most horrible ones for our mental health.Because if you can Villa, you're vilifying your birthday cake or vilifying the bread that your nana just made. I feel like, come on.

Honestly, dude, it doesn't even matter if it's a pizza that you just ordered in.

It doesn't matter.

I think my clients are the most shocked when they go, like, yeah, I was so bad. I had a pizza this weekend. And I'm like, good. And they're like, what? You're my help. What? Why are you saying good? That's not your job here.And I'm like, no, no, no, no. It's good. When we go into it and when we say, like, look, when you eat something quote unquote bad and you sit there, you have to notice two things.You have to notice a, how you're eating it.So most likely, generally when you make a meal, you're going to sit down on the dining table, you're going to eat with your family or even alone, it doesn't matter. But you're going to nourish yourself and you're going to really focus on the meal.When we order in pizza, we're going to sit on the sofa in front of a movie and we're going to shovel that shit in. Like, our life depends on it. And so. And then with the last bite, or probably even before, we're like, I fucked everything up.

Yeah.

And those combinations of those two things of, like, eating it way too fast, not being mindful of how you're eating what you're eating, and then kicking yourself about it is just a pure definition of not succeeding.

Yeah.

But if you sit there and you're like, you know what? I just ordered in a pizza. I'm gonna mindfully eat it. I will focus on every single bite and I will enjoy every single bite.

Right.

And then I'm going to give myself a pat on the back and say, look, this is the best that you could do with the situation that you're in at the moment. But the next meal can make a different choice. We'll make a difference. Yeah.And I think that, on its own, will help your body break down that food so much differently.

Yeah.

And you're not struggling with your own self hatred around just eating a freaking pizza.

No. But I mean, going back to the whole. It's really your mindset whether or not you tell somebody else that you're being bad today.

Yeah.

If you're saying it to yourself, that's the worst thing.

Right.

Right. Because you're. You're saying to yourself that what you've chosen is a Bad choice. And yeah, I don't remember who said it.I don't remember who said this quote or this kind of idea was if you. Oh, no, I do know. It's the lady who does the. The elimination diet. The whole 30? Yes, the whole 30 lady. I believe she said it.And she's like, listen, if you're gonna have that thing that you think is bad, but you actually enjoy, if you can't tell yourself that you're gonna enjoy this, you shouldn't have it.

Exactly.

Right. Like, just go ahead and say to yourself, ah, I'm going to enjoy this. I'm going to appreciate it.I'm going to enjoy the process, I'm going to enjoy the taste. I'm going to enjoy everything about this. This is not a bad thing.

Thing.

It is something that maybe you shouldn't or wouldn't want to have every single day because then it doesn't become a treat. It doesn't become something special. And that's the other thing is, like, think about these things. If I'm not eating pizza every night.But listen, on a Friday night, I've had a long week and I want a pizza.I'm not beating myself up about having a pizza on a Friday night when I'm sitting there with my husband and the two of us are sitting together, even if we're watching television, it's like, exactly.

Try to enjoy it. It should be a recreational drug. That's what I call it is a recreational drug.If you're consuming alcohol every single day or if you're consuming drugs every single day, you have a problem.

Right.

But if you're going out with your friends, I don't know, once a month, and, and drinking or going out for people, whatever it is. Right. I'm just saying once a month because I'm sticking to the drugs. Right. So alcohol, whatever. Then it's socially drinking.You're having fun, you're seizing the moment and you go back home and you're like, okay, no, I don't need to now buy 10 bottles of vodka to have in the cabinet, you know?

Right.

That's. That's the difference. And so, yes, of course, enjoy it. Just don't make it into a habitual thing where it really does.

Yeah.

Affect your health.

Do you think we can fit one more in? I feel like we beat that one to a pulp, but, yeah. Can we fit one more in?

Yes. Let's do it. Let's choose one.

You.

Oh, I. I see one.

Okay, do it.

Just have more willpower.

Oh, you willpower Exactly.

And that's that.

Yeah. No, yeah. Willpower is. Is a. Is a excuse like that. And I think this is especially.At least from what I understand, the thin people looking at fat people would say you should just have more willpower, then you wouldn't be fat anymore and.

Exactly. No, that's a super, super, super frustrating. Super frustrating. I think that willpower. Yes, of course. Everyone needs a little bit more willpower.Right. I need a little bit more willpower to go and do the laundry again. No, it has nothing to do with willpower. It has nothing to do with willpower.And I think that that just makes people. It shames people.

Yeah.

Into thinking that they're just not strong enough. And that's complete bullshit.When you're consuming foods that are keeping you addicted to those foods, which, whether we like it or not, processed food is doing exactly that, then of course, it has nothing to do with willpower. It's addiction.

Well. And it's not even, even. Okay. The foods you eat is part of that, but it's also your body chemistry.Your body chemistry overrides any kind of willpower. Because if your body is telling you you need to eat now, I am starving. You will eat despite.Unless somebody is, like, strapped you down and you cannot physically eat. You will eat because your body chemistry is telling you to do so. Because your body. Your body wants you to stay alive.Your body wants you to be healthy.And when you do these extreme things like the eat more, eat less, move more, you're putting your body under an amount of stress and it's going to react with chemistry. Your body is completely filled with chemicals that dictate when you feel tired, when you feel hungry, when you feel sad.All of these things are chemistry, not willpower.

No, not willpower. And again. And there's. Then there's your DNA. And then if you have an addictive personality or not, if you have neurodiversity or not.I mean, we can line up like a whole list of things and reasons why a person might be struggling with something.

Yeah.

That only willpower will help.

But we can't.

We.

We are done with our 10 minutes now, but we have like 15 or 20 more of these sayings. We need to do another one of these.

Yeah. Let us know in the comments if you want to hear more about these.

Yeah. And I actually like the idea of turning them into something that actually is positive. Like mantras that do make sense.

Okay.

But now we gotta stop. Okay. All right, bye. Bye.