Take Off Your Bra and Take a Nap - So Frickin' Mini

Hey there, beautiful listener.

Welcome to our latest mini episode.

This one starts off a bit differently, so I thought of popping in to explain.

Megan and I record all of our.

Conversations, and on this day, we had a great conversation about bras and naps and decided to make it into a mini.

So enjoy the spontaneous mini episode.

I stopped wearing underwire bras.

Oh.

A while ago because I think it was.

Yeah.

I gained weight, and I'm like, this is.

This is not comfortable.

Every once in a while, like, every six months, I put an underwire bra on, and I wear it for, like, half a day.

And then I'm just like, yeah, yeah.

And I also.

I am still excited about talking that Ronnie, because the other day when I was talking with her sister has, like, severe adhd.

I mean, like, institutionalized adhd, suicide thoughts, can't keep a job.

I mean.

Yeah.

Anyway, so was picking my brain.

I'm like, I do not have the same flavor of ADHD as your sister does.

Yeah.

But we talked about it anyway, and she's like, well, do you ever feel overstimulated?

And it was an interesting question.

And I thought about it for a second, because I don't think.

I tend to feel overstimulated, like, in a crowd environment where a lot of people might feel overstimulated.

Like, you know, at the big conference I went to a couple weeks ago, lots of people, lots of things going on.

It feels kind of like a casino inside one of these things.

Like, you walk in, you have no idea what time of day it is.

You, like, lose all sense of time, and then there's all these things going on, all these people.

And that doesn't seem to overstimulate me or my body has a very good coping mechanism with that.

But I told her because that morning I had went for a walk.

I have this, like, super comfortable bra.

And even with the comfortable bra, when I was walking, primarily because it was cold, so I had two layers on, so I had more fabric here.

And everything was going like this and crunching me in, like, a little bit of, like, a girdle, because it's like.

And I'm just like, the whole walk, I am just adjusting and fucking around with my bra.

And I said, that's over stimulating for me because I can't just sit and relax.

I can't walk and just relax.

I am constantly fidgeting, and it's been that way my whole life.

So it's one of those things.

But I didn't think about that until we talked with Jessica, and then we started talking about the sensory sensitivity.

Exactly.

That's exactly what I was going to say.

Because, like, I think that there's.

I think each per.

Like, I don't.

I think it's definitely, definitely a lot to say about also being on the spectrum, which I truly.

I'm starting to slowly believe that most ADHD people are somewhat on the spot on the autistic spectrum spectrum.

So it could be like very little, but I think that there's a lot of crossover.

But I do think that there's a difference between different sensory deliveries.

Right.

Like, you might not be too bothered with people and the environment around you, but like, when it's about your body, like the bra or the restriction, stuff like that, that's where it hits you, you know, for me it's like light and sound, and for me it's everything.

But.

But yeah, I think it's, it's.

It also has a lot to do with how much your system can handle.

You know, maybe her sister, before the suicidal thoughts, before obviously depression, before, like all the other things kind of accumulated.

Maybe she didn't.

She wasn't as sensitive to everything.

And then it just kind of gathered on because I don't think I was that sensitive before burnout and everything like that.

Like, I used to do networking events.

Yeah.

I couldn't do more than one a month because I was like, that was plenty for me.

And you walk out drained.

But in the moment, I didn't feel like, oh my God, I need to get out of here, or I start screaming like a lunatic, you know, so.

But now I'm like, I. I can't even think of the idea of going to something like that.

Yeah.

You know, so the other thing that came to my mind when she asked me about being overstimulated.

So I said, I think there's three things.

One is this external stimulation.

Then there's the sensory, like the touching of my body.

Stimulation.

Right.

But then the third one was like, my brain.

Like, if I've got too much to do, I'm thinking about all the things I have to do.

And then I need to like, do a reboot because my brain gets over.

Overheated.

I feel like same.

And I.

Then I also told her, she's like,.

Well, what do you do?

And I'm like, I literally take a nap.

Yeah.

Because I, like, I really need to like, control, alt, delete the whole system.

Yeah.

And sleeping, even 20 minutes or 40 minutes, really helps me just turn everything off, reboot and start up again.

I mean, it is so much.

It is so freaking crazy how your brain is like a fucking computer or how a computer is like your brain where you know it's got too much running in the background.

You've got too much cached.

Right.

You've got all these little bits and bops of things that you've opened or accessed and things like that.

And every once in a while, you just need to restart that shit and clear the cache.

And definitely, I. I feel that.

I agree.

I think, for me, it's funny.

I.

Obviously, I don't nap.

I can't do naps because I wake up a raging bitch.

What do you try to nap for?

So that's the thing.

I don't.

I don't try because I hate it, because I know that I'm not good with it.

When I.

It sounds like you're.

It sounds like you're going for a longer period of time, and you wake up in your middle of your REM cycle.

So that's the thing is that when I finally do nap, it's when I literally crash.

Like, I will sit on the sofa and then I'll be like, oh, my God, I'm falling asleep.

Yeah.

And I just sleep.

And then it's usually.

Yeah.

It's not a.

It's not a power nap.

I don't know.

Power napping.

No, no, that's different.

But I can highly recommend a nap.

And if you wanted to try again, the way I would suggest to do it is to not lay down thinking you're going to nap.

First of all, just say, I'm going to lay down.

I'm going to close my eyes.

I'm going to rest.

Okay.

Because the number one thing is people, like, who can't nap.

They're like, yeah, I can't nap because I want to nap.

And then I can't nap.

And then.

Yeah, so don't think of it as a nap.

Just think of it as rest.

But then also set your alarm for 40 minutes.

That's the thing, Megan.

It takes me, like, 40 minutes.

No, no, but that's my point.

No, no, no, no.

But you have to train your body right now, your body doesn't understand that you're taking a nap because you don't do it right.

But if you literally go into your bedroom, close the blinds, and just lay down and listen to music.

Listen to a.

It doesn't matter.

Just rest for 40 minutes.

And if you keep doing that, eventually your body's gonna go, oh, just.

She wants to rest now.

And you will find that you will get into.

And you'll probably have like a.

Of that 40 minutes.

You're probably going to have a 20 minutes of actual sleep time.

But it's still.

Which is a power nap.

Yeah, it's still enough for.

Yeah, it's exactly enough.

So if you're interested, I would.

I would really recommend it, honestly.

It's almost better than meditation.

And it's like meditation because I lay down and sometimes I'm like, I feel so hyper.

Yeah.

There's no way I'm going to sleep.

But as soon as I lay down and do a couple of deep breaths and I'm listening to my sleep music that I listen to at night.

Okay.

Yeah.

I'm just training my body exactly.

My body's going.

Pavlovian response.

She wants to sleep now.

Yeah.

Okay, that's interesting.

No, I. I just know that it's going to take me 35 minutes to finally fall asleep.

And then I will close my eyes and I'll be so fucking frustrated.

The alarm goes off when I'm finally asleep.

I've tried so many things, but I will give it a try.

I. Yeah, but then you don't have to get up.

I mean, I don't make it an alarm that's gonna, like, beluga you out of bed.

It doesn't matter which alarm.

I'm so, like.

I hear Sky's room is the furthest away from mine.

His alarm is not strong.

The doors are all closed.

I wake up knowing that his alarm is gonna go off.

I wake up knowing this morning.

I woke up at four in the.

Morning knowing that George has an early shift.

Like, my brain is just not.

But I do try it.

I do.

I do think there's a lot of good that can come from taking a nap.

Naps are amazing.

I'm just.

I know.

I'm just.

Especially since you're an early riser.

Nap is considered biphasal sleep.

So.

And if you have.

Yeah.

Because you're doing some of your sleep on a different time of the day than overnight.

I don't know.

I find that actually the only thing that I'm upset about moving my tax office hours to the afternoon is that I don't get a nap.

I can only nap on the weekends.

I'm sorry.

Because if I get home at like 5 or 6, it's no longer a nap.

It's just going to bed at 5 or 6.

Exactly.

Right.

Well, that literally took us 10 minutes.

So this is going to be another mini.