The 5 Love Languages (Plus 2 Danna Made Up) - So Frickin' Mini

Hey, Megan.

Hey, Donna.

How you doing?

I'm all right.

How are you?

I have got three beverages and a fan.

I left my blinds open so you can see me, but other I'm doing well.

We have a heat wave going through Switzerland while we're recording this, so I'm glad we're not recording a video for this episode.

Yeah, exactly.

We're both drenching.

There's a huge heat wave in all of Europe, and apparently we've got it good.

Like, Switzerland is even not as bad as other places.

So I'm like.

And as you know, I am thriving off of this heat.

So I am not complaining.

You guys can all complain, But I'm complaining.

You know, nine months of the year when it's winter here, and I'm enjoying those heat waves.

Megan, I wanted to speak to you about something very specific that has come up so many times in conversations lately with you and me, with other people.

And even on our live, our last live, we talked about the love languages, and we were like, maybe we should record a mini about it.

And here we are recording a mini about it.

Yeah.

Love language.

Yes, I agree.

I think love languages was something that my husband.

My husband loves to take quizzes.

So it's so easy for him.

For me to get him to take any kind of personality quiz.

So he's not resistant to this.

And we did this long, long time ago, and it has been one of the things that we probably.

We talk about, we don't talk about, but we mention love languages multiple times a week.

Yeah, same.

Multiple times.

Yeah, same.

And I think I actually even bring it up more with my kids because I need them to understand that there are certain actions that are being made by dad by moments that are actual love languages.

And, you know, just the.

The.

The whole idea behind it.

So I think some people hear the words love language and they kind of assume what it is, but they don't necessarily know.

Some people do, but I kind of.

Feel like they think it's like a personality thing.

It's not a personality thing.

Yeah.

And it's more than that.

It's like the love language is often people express their love language in the way that they like to receive it,.

So.

So it kind of is funny.

So.

So let's just kind of maybe go over the five love languages.

I honestly have two more that I would add.

Officially add to that list.

Okay.

What are they?

So I'm gonna name them if you want to go into what they are.

Specifically acts of service.

Number one, acts of service that My husband does for me is like getting me a glass of water so I don't have to get up or loading the dishwasher.

Although I think that's more for him than me.

But still.

Anyway, receiving gift.

That one is obvious.

Like, some people really thrive off of receiving gifts.

Wait, oh, hold on.

But I have a. I have a point to make about that.

Because like, receiving gifts, somebody might say if your love language is receiving gifts, you're very self centered and you're very materialistic.

Yeah, I know.

So, no, because there.

And.

And I was able to think, I thought about this many, many times.

And actually I love it if my husband, anybody gives me a gift, because it's not the actual gift that they're giving me.

It is the fact that they thought about me when I wasn't around and doing something else and they planned something and gave something to me.

So I feel like the actual gift is not the pivotal part.

It's really the act of giving the gift.

Exactly.

Because a lot of people, for example, would also think, like, okay, I got a gift from my husband, but it's nothing that I ever thought of or wanted or anything like that.

Which kind of.

You're missing the plot there.

But that's okay.

But you know, of course, the, the love language of giving a gift.

And you also hit on what your partner loves.

That's cookie points.

So that's all I'm gonna say there.

Yeah, yeah.

Quality time is the next one.

So just spending time together, I mean, that's so important for a couple to begin with or, or for a relationship.

Any relationship, honestly.

These.

Is that one of your guys love languages, you or George?

We.

Yes.

I think that's one that I appreciate a lot.

And George really makes a point to make time for his family and make time for us as a couple.

So, yes, I do very much appreciate that.

I honestly think we.

We tick almost all the boxes.

We're not into gifts that much.

I love making things for people I love, which is what.

The gifts that they get.

But.

But, yeah, but what do you do?

Hold on, before we go on, I'm curious.

What do you do?

What do you and George do for your kind of quality time?

Just the two of you?

Do you have something specific that you like to do together?

It would be anything.

It would be.

Go.

Usually we just take walks together, go to the lake, sit down in the sun.

Just kind of like sit together.

Even if it's on the balcony, we'll snuggle and we have plenty of seats on the balcony.

But we'll sit on one seat together and like, squish together and melt into one another and just chat or even be quiet or listen to something.

But it's just that it kind of merges into the physical touch for us as well.

Yeah.

So we're watching usually holding hands or kind of hugging.

So.

Yeah, for us, it's kind of almost.

Almost the same one.

When we're together, we're hugging.

So.

Yeah.

And then you mentioned physical touch there.

So that's the fourth one.

Is the fourth one again.

Kind of makes sense.

And then words of affirmation.

So I love you.

You're doing.

Thank you so much for this and that.

You know, you're so amazing for taking out the trash.

I don't know, things like that.

Right.

I appreciate you.

So that's also something.

So what would you say?

Okay, I'm going to talk about the ones that I want to add in a bit, but what would you say?

The ones that.

What are your favorite ones?

So I think, of course, you can, like, take a quiz on this.

And I don't remember exactly what my.

Because they, they get kind of rank them for you.

Exactly.

So for me, it is definitely words of affirmation and acts of service.

And then I think acts of service and quality time kind of are tied less so.

Well, the.

Yeah, yeah, it's really all of them.

I mean, but it's like, which ones are the high.

I think I have to retake the quiz now.

I mean, I think I have to go back because we use them all in our daily life.

Like, if Jorn does something, my, my husband, if he does something, like, for example, he does the laundry.

He always does the laundry.

He does it because he wants to make sure it's done properly.

I don't know what that says about me.

I'm the same.

I'm the same.

I get him.

But I make sure I say thank you for doing the laundry at least probably like every other time, you know, like, hey, you know, I have this huge basket of laundry to fold.

And I'm like, hey, thanks for doing that.

And I feel like that's also.

I know that's his love language as well.

One of his.

So really, we say I love you multiple times a day.

We have every.

So, yeah, all of them.

Yeah.

I don't know.

What was your question?

No, I totally get you because I think they really do merge together.

You know, as you said, you're, you're, you know, he's doing the laundry.

Acts of service.

You're thanking Him.

That's words of affirmation.

So you kind of also know, again, I think subconsciously, everyone knows what they prefer or what they, you know, like to.

To give as a love language.

And.

And again, to all the couples out there, it is.

We usually express the ones that we want to receive or that we.

We.

Yeah.

The hierarchy of them are the ones that we actually like, which is fine.

But I remember the time in my early, early relationship where my husband is very much acts of service, but, like, to an extreme, he really puts himself last.

So he'll.

He'll immediately, like, as soon as I want something, it's.

That's what's going to be done.

The quality time.

I think we were always stuck up each other's ass, so it's hard to quantify that one.

But words of affirmation is something that's so important to me.

And he's Swiss, and Swiss people don't tend.

Well, I'm generalizing here, but they don't tend to say I love you a lot or show affection or kind of outside the house and stuff.

So for me, those two are really, really big.

The physical touch and the words of affirmation.

And I used to get really hurt because I was like, I love you.

And he'd be like, okay.

I'm like, okay.

So it took me a really long time.

And by now he knows as soon as I say, I love you, he, like, immediately.

I'll wake him up in the middle of the night, and I'm like, I love you.

He's like, I love you too.

But he has really tried throughout the years to bring in more words of affirmation.

And I. I feel like I hear him sometimes think and go like, thanks, mom, for.

Do you know, for cooking us a meal, like, in front of the kids, or just kind of like, comes up to me and thanks for doing the laundry.

So it did take them a while, and it did hurt me.

But I. I feel like if you notice what your partner's love language is, then you understand it a little bit better and you understand that they're just showing their affection in a different way.

Right.

But I do have two.

I do have two that I was.

Gonna say we're almost out of time.

I think I'm already out of time.

So what are these two?

Yeah, we chose 10 minutes so that we would.

We're gonna make the minis 15 minutes from now on.

There's two.

And come at me at the comments or not, but we don't have to talk about it much.

Now, one would be actual food feeding.

I think it's got.

It's a.

It's a different world to acts of service.

In my world, my love language is feeding a person is.

Is knowing that I'm making something that they love to eat.

Seeing them enjoy the food, that's, you know, that's.

That's my thing.

And also the second one, which a lot of my Brit friends will understand, there's one of them listening right now.

I know I love you, dude.

Which is, as they would call it, taking a piss.

I'm not going to do their accent, but taking a piss or breaking someone's balls, like when I love someone.

Me and my sisters, when we're in the room together, we are butchering one another.

We're roasting each other on us every second.

And it's our love language.

So I think those two should be officially added.

So this episode is about the seven love languages, in my opinion.

Yeah, I think.

Okay, we have to leave it there because now we're already over time, and there is nothing we can cut out of this.

But as always, our dear listener, if this is something that is interesting to you, if this 10 minutes was like, yeah, I want to hear more, please let us know.

Drop us a line.

If you want a full episode on love languages, obviously, I think we could talk about it for a lot longer.

You know, that would be an amazing episode if we could get our husbands on with us.

Okay.

Oh, my God.

Okay, listeners, if that's what you want.

If you actually want to hear our husbands, I think there's going to have to be some major bribing going on.

Although yours is good on the microphone, mine would probably have to have two beers before he gets on.

Awesome.

It's even better.

All right, Donna, we'll talk to you again next time.

All right, Love you.